Chase What Matters...

So when I woke up this morning prepared to purchase my Halloween Costume for the Tyra Show I was in GREAT spirits! I had cleaned the bathroom (yes, I gave it a hearty good scrub), and packed my mini-luggage to leave (you didn’t think I could very well carry a laptop AND my tinker-bell outfit in my hand did you!) and walked promptly out the door. I was ready or at least as ready as I would ever be!


Now, have you ever had one of those days when you had THE agenda happening? You were set with what needed to get done and you had all your ingredients to ensure it was done and done well? Okay, so you’re with me emotionally as to where I was this morning. I was ready to go! Now, have you ever had one of those mornings when you were in the zone ready to make things happen according to that agenda and you hit a wall?! And not just any wall, I mean the WALL of walls that just stopped you dead in your tracks! Yes, that WALL.


So, now you’re right where I was mentally a few hours ago. You know that feeling of bewilderment with a trace of near hysterics? Well that feeling was beginning to snake it’s way up from my belly to my heart. I was all ready and set to go for the day with several things on my ‘agenda’ to get done, when I hit my wall. Now a wall can take many form, a canceled appointment, funding declined for that new project, your partner leaving you unexpectedly, or a child getting sick. We’ve all experienced those ‘walls’ in life that just knock us dead on our butts. My wall came in the form of monetary transaction delay; the worse kind for me. Now like most of you, I’m affected by the economy and live on a budget (despite what others may think about the life coaching business, a coach still has to be paid).


When I hit my wall and realized payment expected today would not be coming, I had two choices: 1) succumb to my panic and sheer frustration or 2) look for the silver lining. Trust me when I say finding a silver lining in the midst of a potential storm is not the easiest thing to do, but it is the smartest thing to do by far. I had to take a minute to breathe; yes breathe. I had to take a minute to do the whole ‘self talk’ thing. You know that talk you have to give yourself because there just isn’t time nor anyone else around to do it for you? You know if you don’t, you’re liable to just loose it? Yes-that talk J. I immediately asked myself one simple question, “what can do with all this time on my hand?”


Of course I made the appropriate phone calls to rearrange my plans, and set a new course. But I was amazed and happy to realize that when you hit a wall there really isn’t any need for any ‘emotional damage’ (i.e.: resentful feelings or frustration or anxiety). You can simply redirect your energy to what is at hand and accept that stuff just happens and sometimes it really is out of your control. Was I disappointed that I wouldn’t be able to be on set dressed in my designated Halloween Costume for the Tyra Show; of course. But I was happier to realize that I had a choice to still have a productive and happy day doing something I loved – blogging!


You know the funny thing about life? Things really do happen for a reason and sometimes running into a wall is a good thing. It forces you to slow down and focus on what is directly at hand that needs taken care of J. In the end, I guess it’s best said to ‘chase what matters.’




Best,


UberCoach